{"id":3228,"date":"2018-05-31T21:08:48","date_gmt":"2018-05-31T21:08:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thescripturecache.com\/?p=3228"},"modified":"2024-05-13T21:03:11","modified_gmt":"2024-05-13T21:03:11","slug":"marriages-simple-reasons-why-they-fail","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thescripturecache.com\/?p=3228","title":{"rendered":"Marriages\u2014Simple Reasons Why They Fail"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Views: 1<\/p><p align=\"left\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino, serif;\">[<strong>Note: <\/strong>This MS is available in larger font on our <strong>Brief Articles 1<\/strong> page.]<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We are being bombarded with propaganda that would have us believe that marriage and the husband-wife relationship have failed the tests of time and experience. True, divorce is rampant, but I deny that it is the God-ordained <strong>institution <\/strong>of marriage that has failed. When a marriage fails, it is because the <strong>people <\/strong>involved have failed in one or more important characteristics. Marriage works as God intended, only when <strong>both partners <\/strong>behave as God directs. A large percentage of marriages are entered into for very shallow reasons, often resulting in divorce for equally shallow reasons.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Marriage is not for babies, either physically or emotionally. We will do well to discuss some of the trademarks of immaturity that lead to marital disasters. I hope these thoughts will help those who are unhappy in their marriages. I write them also for those who are, or someday will be, contemplating marriage. I trust that even those who are happily married may profit from reviewing these thoughts. Consider these marriage destroyers:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Babies are totally selfish, always seeking their own way. So are some adults. If one marriage partner is self-centered it is bad enough. When two selfish people marry, a powder keg is created that will eventually explode. This is the seed-trait of all the other traits of immaturity.<\/li>\n<li>Babies are not grateful for sacrifices their parents make. One who is never grateful to one\u2019s mate for sacrifices and favors bestowed is asking for problems.<\/li>\n<li>A husband or wife who will not carry one\u2019s share of the load, do one\u2019s work, or fulfill one\u2019s responsibilities places a strain on a marriage that often destroys it.<\/li>\n<li>Some people will not stay with a job more than a few weeks before quitting to jump to another. Some never finish the projects they start. This inconsistency causes much marital misery.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Over-reaction. <\/strong>Some react to the inevitable problems and conflicts in marriage like children. Such a wife may run home to mother at the first disagreement with her husband. Such a husband may react to losing his job or to having an argument with his wife by drinking himself into a stupor. To avenge some slight (real or imagined), some commit adultery.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Foolish standards of love. <\/strong>Whether a man takes his wife to see her parents at Christmastime or whether she cooks his favorite meal once a week does not necessarily indicate love or its absence, yet many marriages have been dissolved over such trivial \u201cstandards\u201d of \u201clove.\u201d<\/li>\n<li><strong>Forgetting the \u201cGolden Rule\u201d:<\/strong> \u201cAll things therefore whatsoever ye would that men should do unto you, even so do ye also unto them\u2026\u201d (Mat. 7:12). Behavior based on this principle would forestall most problems in marriage and\/or cure those that occur.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\">[<strong>Note: <\/strong>I wrote this article for and it was published in <em>The Lighthouse, <\/em>weekly bulletin of Northpoint Church of Christ, Denton, TX, March 18, 2007, of which I was editor.]<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Attribution: <\/strong>From <em>TheScripturecache.com<\/em>; Dub McClish, owner, curator, and administrator.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p align=\"right\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Views: 1[Note: This MS is available in larger font on our Brief Articles 1 page.] We are being bombarded with propaganda that would have us believe that marriage and the husband-wife relationship have failed the tests of time and experience. 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